smuflicker
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| Topic: SINGLE or TAKEN? - part 5 |
Thu 05/08/08 06:11 AM |
| I've been single for a long time and it would be nice to wake up to someone. |
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smuflicker
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| Topic: Tool Man |
Thu 05/08/08 06:09 AM |
| Well i think at times you can offer if there is anything you can say or do without just jumping with a fix. |
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smuflicker
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smuflicker
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| Topic: Tool Man |
Thu 05/08/08 05:54 AM |
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I was thinking arrogant, but ridiculous covers that. It's just plain ignorant to think you can "fix" emotions, you can help them along by listening or perhaps more IF asked but to outright think that something you say or do will magically "fix" anything is stupid...sorry I'm blunt like that.
While you are fixing the emoitcons... can you add a few?
angel with a halo
one begging on one knee
one with an eye flutter
oh emotions... not emoticons.. never mind.
lol thats funny Lily |
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smuflicker
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| Topic: Tool Man |
Thu 05/08/08 05:49 AM |
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Well, here's the thing too, my ex-husband would try to "fix" my emotions and when he couldn't, he would get angry with me. Way to be supportive.
You have NO idea.... what you just said to reaffirm my thoughts right now.... 
5 years of pure hell and one beautiful child later....
No you can't fix someone else's emotions but i think that you can be sinceative to it,or something like that.
absolutely... but to get mad when someone expresses their feelings because they can't "fix" them...is ridiculous.
Yes i totaly agree. that falls into someone wanting to control,have control and that is wrong. Everyone has to be their own person. You can't just go controling everything someone else does or feels. |
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smuflicker
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| Topic: Tool Man |
Thu 05/08/08 05:44 AM |
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Well, here's the thing too, my ex-husband would try to "fix" my emotions and when he couldn't, he would get angry with me. Way to be supportive.
You have NO idea.... what you just said to reaffirm my thoughts right now....
5 years of pure hell and one beautiful child later....
No you can't fix someone else's emotions but i think that you can be sinceative to it,or something like that. |
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smuflicker
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| Topic: Cheating.... |
Thu 05/08/08 05:38 AM |
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nope! once a cheater, always a cheater!!!
Not true....
I don't think that is true either |
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smuflicker
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| Topic: Tool Man |
Thu 05/08/08 05:34 AM |
| I can see that you are a very strong willed person Lily. I do think that i understand what you are saying. Everyone is their own person and sometimes you just need to have someone to listen to you, but there is more to it than that also. |
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smuflicker
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| Topic: Tool Man |
Thu 05/08/08 05:27 AM |
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If you are in a relationship with some one do you want that person to fix something,what is your desire from a mate?
I want caring and compassion, but I don't want someone to dote on me, I don't expect them to "take care of me" I expect support, not domination.
I totaly understand. I only wanted to understand where you were comeing from. Not everything can be fixed by someone else. |
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smuflicker
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| Topic: Tool Man |
Thu 05/08/08 05:15 AM |
| If you are in a relationship with some one do you want that person to fix something,what is your desire from a mate? |
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smuflicker
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| Topic: Tool Man |
Thu 05/08/08 05:12 AM |
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I don't try to fix everything but if your in a relationship then some want to try try and fix some things. I know a few men that if told, i'm sad, i'm not feeling good, my back hurts they say,and... what do you want me to do about it or well get over it. Is that the type of partner you want?
There is a wide range between "get over it" and "here let me fix it". How about - "I am here to listen"
I understand that and i am a good listener. At this point i'm wandering at what point is something suppost to be attemped to be fixed or what? If some one is sad,do you semply ask why and leave it at that,just go on to something else or what? |
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smuflicker
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| Topic: Tool Man |
Thu 05/08/08 05:04 AM |
| I don't try to fix everything but if your in a relationship then some want to try try and fix some things. I know a few men that if told, i'm sad, i'm not feeling good, my back hurts they say,and... what do you want me to do about it or well get over it. Is that the type of partner you want? |
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smuflicker
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| Topic: Tool Man |
Thu 05/08/08 04:53 AM |
| If we were incencative then we wouldn't care to try and fix anything |
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smuflicker
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| Topic: Where do I stand? What do i do? lol |
Thu 05/08/08 04:03 AM |
| Good things come to those who wait, i have to keep telling myself that, anyway sounds to me that she likes you. Take things as they come and enjoy spending time with her and get to know her. |
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smuflicker
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| Topic: why |
Tue 05/06/08 11:43 AM |
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my ex is throwing a fit bc his ex wife is letting his kids with her see the kid he has with me...
Makes perfect sense for the kids to be spending time together. They are siblings, after all. 
just what i was thinking |
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smuflicker
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| Topic: I have come to realize |
Tue 05/06/08 10:49 AM |
| Nice new look Lily, i had to check to be sure it was you, anyway from what i've seen of you i like you. Seems that your just to the point about things,nothing wrong with that. |
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smuflicker
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| Topic: JSH crushes - part 5 |
Tue 05/06/08 04:17 AM |
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{{{smuf}}} Someone will one day 
Yea, i know your right. It's just that i have become so picky,i know it's going to be a longtime. Really i have given up trying. I flirt here and there on here and in person but i really don't look at getting anywhere. It's like i make a small flirt and then i just go on because i don't feel that anything is going to happen anyway so why should i put out very much effert. |
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