PacificStar48
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| Topic: Who is going??? |
Sun 11/02/08 04:50 PM |
| I am just thinking of all the cool things we might not know about that would be fun. Like leaping through time or mass. Can you imagine making love with no gravity? LOL "No honey my back hurts." I can just imagine how they communicate. Wonder if you can put your memories on hold or delete. Just think never have to remember your enemies. Telekineticlly know what your kids are really up to? Could be totally awesome. |
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PacificStar48
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PacificStar48
Joined Tue 10/02/07
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| Topic: Who is going??? |
Sun 11/02/08 04:26 PM |
| Sure why not! If they can live long enough to find us they have secrets I want to know. |
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PacificStar48
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| Topic: HEY FRIENDS |
Sun 11/02/08 04:24 PM |
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i had fun at my church handing out candy and playing games and then going to my fire station and giving candy to community kids and letting them play games and bob for apples
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Now days that sounds like the best idea. Lot safer that going to strangers doors. I quit decorateing for Halloween when my kids left home. So many of the kids looked more like adults and trampled my yard and had the nerve to take big old huge handfuls of candy. I am a very generous person but that is just bad manners. |
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PacificStar48
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PacificStar48
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| Topic: Refusing to hold my dog's leash on a hike... thoughts please |
Sun 11/02/08 04:10 PM |
| Strange how some people reveal themselves sometimes. Don't think I would hike with that guy again. You turn your ankle or something he would probably leave in the woods to fend for yourself. How people treat animals is pretty good indicator of how they would treat a kid. Kind of scarey. |
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PacificStar48
Joined Tue 10/02/07
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| Topic: Why????? |
Sun 11/02/08 04:03 PM |
| Wow Lighten up folks! Sounds like you went out on a nice date and who knows he might be seeing if he is going to have next weekend off to take you out again before he calls. Not everybody falls head over heels in one date or goes out every weekend. Dates cost real money. Maybe he has to take care of other things. Already had other things planned. For crying out loud he took you out on the holiday that should tell you something. If he didn't say I will call you Saturday I would take a chill pill. If you called once and left a message give it a rest and have fun in the mean time. You get all worked up you are going to not sound happy when he does call. |
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PacificStar48
Joined Tue 10/02/07
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| Topic: Cat or dog person...or any pets... |
Sun 11/02/08 03:47 PM |
| You all are making me want a four legged pet. I have had both. About kills me everytime I loose one. Don't think I could go through it again. Tiny place I have my birds really don't have all that much room. |
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PacificStar48
Joined Tue 10/02/07
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| Topic: Are you too internet sensetive? |
Sun 11/02/08 02:56 PM |
| I do tend to take some comments with a grain of salt because you know they are cutting up or just trying to sound thug or some other fantasy. I do think there are some con games being run on people and or just looking for a fight. |
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PacificStar48
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| Topic: Are you too internet sensetive? |
Sun 11/02/08 02:45 PM |
| I really don't care if someone agrees with me or not. That is cool. What is not cool is when people come in here suggesting I am somehow defective that I talk to people and exchange ideas and if I run across someone compatiable want to date them. If they have to tell me to do something vulgar, or I am wasteing my life, stupid, or any of a laundry list of childish insults they better come ready to dual with more wits than most of them show. I don't have to use vulgar names but I can and will identify childish or abusive behavior for what it is. For some it is only a matter of time before they melt down and it is better to just ignore their goading. |
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PacificStar48
Joined Tue 10/02/07
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| Topic: Strange? |
Sun 11/02/08 02:17 PM |
| Maybe it just takes them a while to get their nerve up. I have seen a couple of profiles that I thought were interesting and just checked to see if their seperated status ever changed or they just were stuck in the "S" situation which I want no part of. Now I look at profiles more from what someone says in forums than anything else. |
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PacificStar48
Joined Tue 10/02/07
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| Topic: Child Support Spreadsheet required... |
Sun 11/02/08 02:09 PM |
| I try to keep financial and gender bias out of the decision process when ever possible. I have seen some parents that are calm, organized, and get top notch substitute care when they are at work and occasionally that is the parent that is more affluent. I have worked with a lot of military families that had to work out best interest when the parent went to combat or training and sometimes it was still in the best interest of the child to stay in the system they were settled and thriveing in rather than go to the other parent. Luckily more than once the parents worked out for the other to step in or even a grandparent but it is always disruptive to the child in a big way bounceing back and forth. In a perfect world I would make divorceing parents both provide a single home for their kids and make them do the moving to effect their parental responsibilities and or the divorce that they want but often the kids don't. |
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PacificStar48
Joined Tue 10/02/07
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| Topic: Good time to return calls |
Sun 11/02/08 01:54 PM |
| Being off topic is ok. I have wondered about what to put on my aswering machine. Invariably when I have my hands full of something or step out for a while that is when someone calls back. |
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PacificStar48
Joined Tue 10/02/07
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| Topic: Good time to return calls |
Sun 11/02/08 01:51 PM |
| Well I always leave a message and state who it is for but I am not going to leave a number on an answering machine in an office. I tend to keep my personal life personal. I wonder if that is too old fashioned? People seem so casual now days. |
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PacificStar48
Joined Tue 10/02/07
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| Topic: Good time to return calls |
Sun 11/02/08 01:45 PM |
| Yea I hate to call people and interrupt what they are doing. Especially if it is family time. People work such strange hours sometimes. The only thing worse than and answering machine is when a kid answers. |
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PacificStar48
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PacificStar48
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| Topic: Good time to return calls |
Sun 11/02/08 01:39 PM |
| If someone sends you a number when do you think is a good time to return a call? I rarely get "----is a good time for us to chat" and I never know what is good to leave on an answering machine. What is your opinions/preferences on this? |
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PacificStar48
Joined Tue 10/02/07
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| Topic: Child Support Spreadsheet required... |
Sun 11/02/08 01:24 PM |
| I do not think we are on the same page if anyone is convinced having the bigger better lifestyle is even miniscule important in determining who will provide the better home and parenting for a child. I will pick a warm loving parent living in cluttered subsidized houseing who can tell me the child's teachers names, knows the pediatrican phone number by heart and never missed a clinic appointment, knows the childs sleep routines, and can tell me what to do when they throw up before I will place a child with and angry executive that can tell me the stock ticker, exactly the interest rate on is vacation home, but can't tell me why they are sleeping in pajamas that are two sizes too small or the kid is in a private school alone for the holidays. Yes I get these are two extreams but it is RARELY that I see a non-custodial parent that rags about paying for their child that gave a damn. Their visitation was inconsistent, they were constantly moving up which was not reflected in their child's possessions or privileges, and they had a series of excuses and substitute relationships that were always more important than the First in Time First in Line family they usually abandoned or drove out with their my way or the highway attitude. |
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PacificStar48
Joined Tue 10/02/07
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| Topic: Child Support Spreadsheet required... |
Sun 11/02/08 01:01 PM |
| It has nothing to do with owning the child. It has to do with which parent has better parenting skills. Which parent can maintain a stable clean wholesome safe living environment. Which parent will stay sober. Which parent can work with the educational and medical systems. Which parent can exclude toxic people from their life even if they are family. Which parent the child can interact with most effectively. Which parent is willing to set aside a standard of living to give the necessary time to care for the child when they are sick, need supervision, or just attention. Which parent has the emotional and physical strength to manage the child. Which parent can cope with the stress of custodial parenting best. And contrary to some opinions which parent WANTS the child. I can not even count the number of times I have pleaded with non-custodial parents to take their child and they won't even consider it. Never is the size or wealth of a home to be the decideing factor of the child's placement. I have seen extreamly career/financially successful adults that would melt down after three hours with their own kid. |
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PacificStar48
Joined Tue 10/02/07
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| Topic: Child Support Spreadsheet required... |
Sun 11/02/08 12:36 PM |
| Since when does financial ability determine best interest of the child in custody issues. It takes two people to create a child and two people should have to sacrifice not only time but a percentage of their income to support their dependent children. |
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