PacificStar48
Joined Tue 10/02/07
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| Topic: I bet you |
Thu 10/30/08 11:30 AM |
QUOTE:
You have to read this in a "suthen vain voice"
Miss Bonny, that might be more difficult for you! 
3 suthen women are sittin on a front porch
wearin their best suthen belle outfits
fannin themselves in the hot air
Woman #1 says "On our 5th anniversary, my husband got me a cadilac."
Woman #2 says "On our 5th anniversary, my husband got me a 10 carat diamond."
Woman #3 says in her most suthen drawl "HOW NICE!"
Woman #1 says "On our 10th anniversary, my husband got me a full length mink coat"
Woman #2 says "On our 10th anniversary, my husband took me on a month long cruise"
Woman #3 says "HOW NICE!"
LOL this was just the sort of thing I was thinking about for the people who seem to get off on bullying others in here lately. Not talking about the jokeing around but the mean stuff.
Woman #1 & Woman #2 look at woman #3 and says
"Miss Miranda, what did your husband get you?"
Miss Miranda says...."Oh he sent me to charm school"
2 & 3 says in unison..."Charm school?? What forevah for?"
Miss Miranda says..."So I could learn to say "HOW NICE" instead of F**K YOU!"
Charm AND Vanity!
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PacificStar48
Joined Tue 10/02/07
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| Topic: Perverts! |
Thu 10/30/08 11:25 AM |
| Hey if you don't like the response change the picture. Personally I don't think it hurts to see who is into eye candy. Kind of tells you something about which head they think with and you can block them. |
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PacificStar48
Joined Tue 10/02/07
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| Topic: It seems to me |
Thu 10/30/08 11:11 AM |
I am glad you brought this up. I like to express and opinion but I think you can tell what you think about a subject with out attacking the speaker.
The name calling and personal insults and picking on people who are just looking for some friendly support when they are in pain is totally un called for.
I personally think if someone is attacted publiclly in forums you can tell them privately or publiclly that you didn't like it. A simple endorsement of your friend and their right to not be insulted is enough. That doesn't have to turn the forums into a popularity contest or cheerlead on arguements versus discussions.
I generally let people defend themselves because I respect you all as adults to shake off truely ignorant stuff but the lines are being crossed too often and I have often been tempted to reference the long stand compliment of disapproval "Honey that was such a darlin thing to say." I have just felt such subtle ways would be lost on most of them. Telling someone to apologize for their behavior usually negates the apology.
While some of you are younger and have the energy to punch bullies in the nose verbally (which most of them enjoy since it is better than no attention at all) most of you will learn the wisdom in the saying "There is no punishment like silence for a fool." By ignoreing their remarks or refuseing to be baited into anger they have defeated themselves by showing their real colors. It may take being shut out many times before they correct their behavior but eventually it works.
I do think it is important to keep in mind that cyber bullies can and do up there game into real life and or do a lot of emotional damage. There are people who do have fragile personalities and personal attacks do cause real pain even if they are only a key stroke. Many people need the approval for their survival. For some the perceptions that the world gives them comes primarily from their computer because they are more or less invisible everywhere else. There are many documented cases where cyber bully victims do serious harm to themself or others because they have no where else to take their anger.
I don't think the moderators can always deal with this issue. Maybe a gentle, or not so gentle if it comes is numbers, "Moderate your comments" would help. It is worth a try when you see something you don't think is within boundries.
If someone brings a personal fight in the room jumping on them can
Communities like this can set boundries by limiting the behavior of angry people by disinclusion. If they can not get a response they will up the behavior to try and get attention and then when they are ignored they will leave. |
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PacificStar48
Joined Tue 10/02/07
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| Topic: one question. |
Thu 10/30/08 10:19 AM |
| Sorry your back hurts. I was wondering how you were. Had you on my send good vibes list. Hope it helps. I predict Your Prince charming is coming your way in April or Easter but it will be very subtle so don't miss it. Reciprocate low key but it will really bloom late summer. He will be thrilled with the package deal. |
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PacificStar48
Joined Tue 10/02/07
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| Topic: New girl on the block |
Thu 10/30/08 09:48 AM |
| Welcome to the playground. There are nice people here and if you talk to the "regulars" in the forums it will give you lots more exposure for your future friend to see you and get to know you. |
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PacificStar48
Joined Tue 10/02/07
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| Topic: whats "fish" mean? |
Wed 10/29/08 11:57 PM |
| Yea what is scarey is how close he is to a family lake. |
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PacificStar48
Joined Tue 10/02/07
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| Topic: I think i have brain damage |
Wed 10/29/08 11:45 PM |
| Give them the mental health hotline number and hang up. That is emotional terrorism of you. People who are suicidal do talk about but you don't have the skills to really help so best to leave it to trained professionals. Calling it in to 911 will sometimes stop the behavior with you but not others so why waist 911 access for someone who wants real help? Maybe attending survivors of suicide would be a good thing for you. Looks like you seek out suicidal personalities or players who are very good at picking up on your vunerabilities. Either type are a poor candidate for a good future. Good Luck! |
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PacificStar48
Joined Tue 10/02/07
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| Topic: Caring or Possesive? |
Wed 10/29/08 11:15 PM |
| It is tough when people are in different places about a relationship. It is kind of like rowing a boat with one oar. Very hard to do anything but go in circles no matter how even you try to be in your effort. Always feel sorry for anyone that finds themself in that very un-fun position. Sometimes it is just self preservation to say I can't do this friendship on these terms. |
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PacificStar48
Joined Tue 10/02/07
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| Topic: where are the mods |
Wed 10/29/08 11:09 PM |
| Main thing is to print it off for documentation. Don't respond to her. Telling the Mods is SOP but probably useless. |
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PacificStar48
Joined Tue 10/02/07
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| Topic: Useless Questions... |
Wed 10/29/08 11:05 PM |
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What's a hokey pokey??
A dance to do; preferably drunk & or naked but often at partys. |
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PacificStar48
Joined Tue 10/02/07
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| Topic: where are the mods |
Wed 10/29/08 10:54 PM |
| I don't know where they are or the shadow is? |
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PacificStar48
Joined Tue 10/02/07
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| Topic: Simple Daily Goals |
Wed 10/29/08 10:38 PM |
Tomorrow
Put supper in the Crock Pot
Plan a 2009 Budget
Paybills
Read at least two hours
Go to the bank
Pick up Prescriptions
Make a language chart
Hopefully talk to my new "interest"
Send friends Harvest Greetings
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PacificStar48
Joined Tue 10/02/07
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| Topic: can a friend..... |
Wed 10/29/08 10:19 PM |
| I can't imagine being a lover with someone I didn't think enough of to call a friend. When you have both;long term close friend and lover, it is truely awesome. |
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PacificStar48
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PacificStar48
Joined Tue 10/02/07
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| Topic: im a killer |
Wed 10/29/08 10:02 PM |
| Holy Crap I will change it. |
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PacificStar48
Joined Tue 10/02/07
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| Topic: im a killer |
Wed 10/29/08 09:57 PM |
| Tina I might have a lawyer who would be interested in your "shadow". If you are email me. |
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PacificStar48
Joined Tue 10/02/07
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| Topic: comfortable cloths |
Wed 10/29/08 09:53 PM |
| At home cotton camisole dress and nothing else once Dad retires which is early. Out and about depends on the plan for the day. Can go high style or comfy. More often than not jeans and a scrub top and comfy shoes. Whenever warm enough shorts and pretty flip flops which is much of the year in California at sea level. |
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PacificStar48
Joined Tue 10/02/07
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| Topic: this place |
Wed 10/29/08 09:42 PM |
| I am waiting for the show guys...lol. |
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PacificStar48
Joined Tue 10/02/07
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| Topic: comfortable cloths |
Wed 10/29/08 09:31 PM |
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My silk slacks and a nice dress shirt.
If you are talking about the crap that people wear to Wal-Mart when they don't give a damn what they look like...count me out.
You never fail to surprise me. Silk pants very seductive. |
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PacificStar48
Joined Tue 10/02/07
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| Topic: Mobile Mingle? |
Wed 10/29/08 09:27 PM |
| Have a blackberry I wish I knew how to use it. |
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