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THANKS i JUST THINK MAYBE THIS SITE IS NOT FOR "MY KIND"

i just met this girl and all she is talkin bout is her x bf....what do u think i should do?

Well I was with this guy who said he loved me and everything. He would call me baby and stuff. I gave him money when he needed it, but then realized in the end just how much I gave him. Which was almost 200 dollars in just a month. Then he was using me for sex and stuff, but the funny thing is I still have feelings for him. Am I stupid for that?

HEY WENDY, heres the thing. THE more of us that you ask for advice[INCLUDING YOUR PERSON FRIENDS} the more confused you will become,it is you and him in this so the only one outside of the two of you that you shoul listen to is your GUTS!!!! always listen to your inner you that way you are not going off of someone elses plans, your grown now and if ou cant direct your self how can you direct your children when its time? remember your not the first one, and for sure wont be the last one to find yourself in a situation of these sorts but as long as you think it out and respect you own decision you will be fine, so good luck...signed FROM THE OUT SIDE LOOKING IN

So I've been hanging out with this guy for a few months. We'd hang out about once a week...It would usually consist of me going over to this place, having a few drinks, talking, watching movies, and sometimes cuddling. We've never hooked up. I'd just keep telling myself that it's just for fun and he's not my type at all...because he isn't. Physically, I find him very attractive and he's very intelligent and ambitious...which I like. But other than that, he doesnt have any qualities that I like in a guy and he even has some "deal breakers" for me. I know he's totally wrong for me, but recently, I've started to have really strong feelings for him. I can't stop thinking about him. The thing is, I'm moving to Boston next month for school and I'll probably only get to see him once or twice before I go. After that, I'll only be back here on breaks. Is it even worth it to tell him how I feel or should I just let it go and forget him?

seems to be a misconception as well. i know i've heard women say before that they feel men get intimidated by women going after them but some of us actually prefer it. and the other way around as well, it seems to be a general understanding that the man must make the first move. i know this is gradually changing but i think it still plays a role even if it's not apparent at the time.

Run him over with a car. Its fun!

Aoccdrnig to a rscheearch at Cmabrigde Uinervtisy, it deosn't mttaer in waht oredr the ltteers in a wrod are, the olny iprmoetnt tihng is taht the frist and lsat ltteer be at the rghit pclae. The rset can be a toatl mses and you can sitll raed it wouthit porbelm. Tihs is bcuseae the huamn mnid deos not raed ervey lteter by istlef, but the wrod as a wlohe.

http://www.mrc-cbu.cam.ac.uk/~mattd/Cmabrigde/

That's just a ridiulous way of learning. No "guru" in the PUA community makes men feel hopeless without their words (except for one particular guru but he's got a pretty bad rep lol) and it's common knowledge throughout the community that these teachers can only show you the door but not open it for you. Basic life philosophy mumbo jumbo. What the mPUAs do is give you control of your own life, not take control of it.

Sometimes reading someone else's words or seeing a different perspective just elucidates and solidifies your thoughts and gets the ball rolling. Of course at the end of the day no amount of reading or listening to someone else can make you change yourself.

I have been reading through some of the fellas profiles today and I will have to say, it is a red flag to me when the guy can't even spell. Just some advice for you fellas, learn to spell! Ya'll are sweet and everything, but something is not right when you can't spell.

Both the book I mention and my time here at JSH has served me well in realizing that my shyness or negative self images are only perceptions I have in my mind, that past feelings of inadequecy are little more than handcuffs I mentally put on and bound myself with. To let go of those and feel good about just being myself.

You seem to be of the opinion that people should never change unless they can do it under their own power. That people who have issues within themselves that they want to change shouldn't seek a therapist or read a self help book to clarify their perspective and perhaps see things from a different one.

Eh, to each their own. I prefer to be myself & in a respectful, gentleman manor without these "codes" and games, if I can't pick up a girl who won't respect me how I am then I don't need her anyway. But if a guy can pick up women with these codes good for them, probably not the type of women I want anyway;^]

And for those who'd like to learn more about PUA methods, there is The Mystery Method by Mystery and The Rules of the Game by Neil Strauss (which comes out this Tuesday, Dec. 18th).

By the way, this is a side note, but I would like to thank you for participating in intelligent, coherent debate with me instead of immaturely slandering me without expressing a reasonably explained basis for your opinions. It's nice to see people who can actually turn their opinion on any topic into an intelligent argument. It's nice to see people who actually understand the purpose of a discussion forum.

PS. In my opinion, what you contribute to the threads over time tells way more about a person than the all about me part of their profile. Actions over time speak way louder than a one time look at a well thought out paragraph. I hope that I can never describe myself in one paragraph. I finally added more to the one line that I had and not even sure why I did that......

Listening to me (not reading ABOUT me) is the only true way to know who I am...

But thanks for sharing everything that you did