oldsage
Joined Thu 09/14/06
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| Wed 06/25/08 02:10 PM |
Deanna, hope you make some friends here.
We are a pretty decent bunch, enjoy good conversation & helping eachother cope.
11 yrs for me & I agree on staying single.
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GREATGUY
Joined Wed 10/11/06
Posts: 106
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| Wed 06/25/08 05:25 PM |
You will do just fine. Its humbling here. You think you are the only one with troubles and you find everyone has something going on, more some days than others.
There is something good about that, it means when people respond to you, they have been there and done that so they have nothing to prove, only help and understanding to offer.
For me, I would like to find someone. Heck the longer you look at yourself in a mirror the better looking you think you are. Besides,its not good talking to youself all the time.
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mg1959
Joined Thu 04/05/07
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| Wed 06/25/08 09:34 PM |
Thanks Auburn for inviting me here. It's obvious that our lives are different from others who have not gone through what we have. For those who do not have belief in the spirit and soul it must be terrifying. For us who know there is a beyond, we still go through the nightmares, but also get to experience that strange peace "in the still".
One thing I do understand is the pity that many go through, or even put themselves through. I think that (for me any way) it's important to start learning how to get over the guilt that it is not your fault. The if only's can drive you crazy.
Another thing that people say is "put it behind". I don't want to put it behind. I don't want to start a new. I want to continue (good or bad). Continue in this world and the next.
God bless all of you you are trying to deal with this.
with love,
michael
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Rapunzel
Joined Tue 08/22/06
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| Wed 06/25/08 10:03 PM |
 Greetings Auburn Girl
& Everyone else...
 i just noticed you online here  dear Brother Michael
& i thought i'd stop by & say hello
 i was unaware that you are also widowed ...
 Love to you & to your dear, sweet Bonny Miss
i agree with your idea of <not putting it behind>,
but starting fresh & brand new
God Bless You
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auburngirl
Joined Fri 04/27/07
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| Thu 06/26/08 04:43 AM |
Good Morning all
Welcome Deanna I'm so glad you found us!
((((Michael)))) Glad you came by! Love to Bonny
(((((Vanessa))))))
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carold
Joined Sun 03/23/08
Posts: 1420
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| Thu 06/26/08 05:21 AM |
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Thanks Auburn for inviting me here. It's obvious that our lives are different from others who have not gone through what we have. For those who do not have belief in the spirit and soul it must be terrifying. For us who know there is a beyond, we still go through the nightmares, but also get to experience that strange peace "in the still".
One thing I do understand is the pity that many go through, or even put themselves through. I think that (for me any way) it's important to start learning how to get over the guilt that it is not your fault. The if only's can drive you crazy.
Another thing that people say is "put it behind". I don't want to put it behind. I don't want to start a new. I want to continue (good or bad). Continue in this world and the next.
God bless all of you you are trying to deal with this.
with love,
michael I so agree with that what you were saying about people saying put it behind you. My husbands death was expected and it is over 3 years and when he left he was in so much pain I was ready and he is free now. But my sister was unexpected and allot younger than me. I don't have words for people that say that because they don't know. And someone else was talking about guilt. With her so much guilt because of our relationship I was always there for her if I did this or that maybe this wouldn't have happened. It has been 6 years only time helps it heal. Life I know our love ones want to see us happy so I just try for that. Smiles
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Rapunzel
Joined Tue 08/22/06
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auburngirl
Joined Fri 04/27/07
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| Thu 06/26/08 08:27 AM |
{{{{{Vanessa}}}}} you are so kind to me!
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deanna48
Joined Tue 06/24/08
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| Thu 06/26/08 08:48 AM |
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Thanks for all the heartfelt welcomes. So far I like this site alot and I do feel welcome.
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auburngirl
Joined Fri 04/27/07
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| Thu 06/26/08 09:19 AM |
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Deanna, when was your loss if I may ask you that?
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auburngirl
Joined Fri 04/27/07
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| Thu 06/26/08 09:20 AM |
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Hi,
Just wanted to say hello. I found and joined this site today and i really, really like it. I am a widow and have been one for 18 years. I have been single since I was 30. My children are now 21, 25, and 28. I don't date; I tried that for a little while here and there and got so tired of it that I quit completely in 2001. I'm alone and most of the time not lonely. If and when I get lonely I find something to do. As I said I like this site and I'm realy glad I found it.
OPPS, nevermind, I see it now!
I'm very sorry for your loss. I have been widowed 9 yrs. My husband died of cancer when he was 37 and I was 3 weeks from my 36th birthday.
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auburngirl
Joined Fri 04/27/07
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| Thu 06/26/08 09:22 AM |
OH CATHY?????????? WHERE ARE YOU????
I know you have a couple of significant dates the end of this month and I'm wondering how you are?!!!!!
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im4roses
Joined Mon 06/02/08
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| Thu 06/26/08 11:48 AM |
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well we are heading into July.... to many dates that mattered this nest month his bd, anniversary stemm cell transplant he would have 5 years nold by transplant date.. gma bd. can I slip July and move to augest.. have to find a job... to much to do here.. just overwhelmed today sorry
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auburngirl
Joined Fri 04/27/07
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| Thu 06/26/08 12:52 PM |
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HUGS Rose It's tough when so much comes so close together. We understand.
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deanna48
Joined Tue 06/24/08
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| Thu 06/26/08 01:20 PM |
My husband died 18 years ago. I know that's a long time to stay single. It took a long time to heal. he was an alcoholic and a drug addict, and everything else that goes along with those 2 things. I didn't plan to stay single this long, but that's the way it's worked out.
Hey Rose - find a place to go to or do something you normally wouldn't do during some of those days. Go to a movie, take an unexpected day trip, etc. That helps
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Edited by deanna48 on Thu 06/26/08 01:25 PM
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auburngirl
Joined Fri 04/27/07
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| Thu 06/26/08 01:41 PM |
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Hugs Deanna!
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mg1959
Joined Thu 04/05/07
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| Fri 06/27/08 03:17 AM |
Hi back to my friends,
You have made this thread such a warm place.
love and peace always
michael
And a special thanks to Bonny for all of her support and kindness!!!!!
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auburngirl
Joined Fri 04/27/07
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| Fri 06/27/08 10:48 AM |
Thank you Michael I/we have all tried to. We hoped to get our own board to break the topics up a bit so information already covered would be easier to find, but that didn't happen. Maybe one day.
I'm thrilled with the response here. Entering the dating world again for people who have lost a spouse can add quite the twist can't it? I've even thought of setting one evening a week perhaps to be here at a specific time to chat for any who could do that. We'll see
Have a GREAT Friday everyone!!!!
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auburngirl
Joined Fri 04/27/07
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| Sat 06/28/08 06:14 AM |
GOOOOOD morning to all widows and widowers!
I hope you all have a GREAT day! 
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carold
Joined Sun 03/23/08
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| Sat 06/28/08 06:27 AM |
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GOOOOOD morning to all widows and widowers!
I hope you all have a GREAT day!
Back at yah Smiles
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