Sir_Galahad
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| Mon 10/13/08 03:34 PM |
This refers to people who have had a felony conviction on their records...
I wouldn't have an issue with what she did.
If there was enough about her to interest me, yes, I would.
I'd also date women with a disability or physical deformity. I don't merely judge a book by its cover, I get to know a person and don't judge them solely on ONE aspect of their personality!
If the conviction is over five years old, how do you know that person has not made a change in their life?
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maxxximus007
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| Mon 10/13/08 03:38 PM |
here comes the judge!!
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hellkitten54
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| Mon 10/13/08 03:38 PM |
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Depends on what kind of felony. But I probably wouldn't ever date anyone with a felony conviction on their record. Yes I judge, as it's not my life I worry about, but my sons.
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FETTS61
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| Mon 10/13/08 03:40 PM |
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who am i to judge
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Rinarot
Joined Mon 09/24/07
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| Mon 10/13/08 03:40 PM |
I'd have to draw the line at rape and murder for a physical relationship for obvious reasons.
XD
As for physical deformity or disability, as long as our personalities mesh--but that goes for everyone.
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Sir_Galahad
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| Mon 10/13/08 03:43 PM |
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QUOTE:
Depends on what kind of felony. But I probably wouldn't ever date anyone with a felony conviction on their record. Yes I judge, as it's not my life I worry about, but my sons.
Let's say, for example, they had a felony conviction ten years ago for selling drugs. But they served their time, cleaned up their act, and now works as a chef for a ritzy restaurant? They've been CLEAN for those ten years, and have a good job, regardless.
Do you hold that felony against them?
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Sir_Galahad
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| Mon 10/13/08 03:47 PM |
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I'd have to draw the line at rape and murder for a physical relationship for obvious reasons.
I know a guy convicted of killing a cop...but he claims it was self-defense. I can believe that! He served his time, and he's got a job, and he pays all his bills on time.
I've heard of plenty of guys charged with "statutory" rape, even though the sex was consensual, because the parents pressed charges. Some of these guys went on to MARRY the "victim", but that charge is still on their record.
A 30-something guy with a 16 year old is something quite different than an 18 year old guy and a 16 year old. Heck, that being the case, I'M guilty, even though I was never charged! But in the eyes of the law, I would be as much a criminal as the 30-something guy!
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hellkitten54
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| Mon 10/13/08 03:47 PM |
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Depends on what kind of felony. But I probably wouldn't ever date anyone with a felony conviction on their record. Yes I judge, as it's not my life I worry about, but my sons.
Let's say, for example, they had a felony conviction ten years ago for selling drugs. But they served their time, cleaned up their act, and now works as a chef for a ritzy restaurant? They've been CLEAN for those ten years, and have a good job, regardless.
Do you hold that felony against them?
I don't hold anything against them, but I wouldn't date them. I know a lot of people in NA and great for them for cleaning up their act. But it's always a possibility to revert to old ways. I like my life how it is now.
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jtip1977
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| Mon 10/13/08 03:47 PM |
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Judge Reinhold was great in Fast Times at Ridgemont High
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njmom05
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| Mon 10/13/08 03:49 PM |
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Would depend on the crime, but we should never judge anyone. Being a single mom, I would never date someone who hurt or molested a child. Hell, there are even websites to become penpals with men and women who are incarcerated.
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ljcc1964
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| Mon 10/13/08 03:52 PM |
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Mike Judge is pretty funny.
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Sir_Galahad
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| Mon 10/13/08 03:52 PM |
My wife accused me of molesting her kids...
However, at the time, she was schizophrenic, and NEITHER of us had access to her kids.
So it was an unfounded accusation. But I was still accused...
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Ruth34611
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| Mon 10/13/08 03:53 PM |
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accusations are very different than convictions.
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RKISIT
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| Mon 10/13/08 03:54 PM |
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well there are people out there who have done alot of bad things and never got caught,so unless the felony is really bad i dont see to much of a problem.
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Edited by RKISIT on Mon 10/13/08 03:55 PM
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ledi180
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| Mon 10/13/08 03:55 PM |
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Depends on what and when. I too gotta worry about the kiddo.
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Sir_Galahad
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| Mon 10/13/08 03:55 PM |
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accusations are very different than convictions.
True enough...but we don't really give people a chance. Like the daycare owners who were later PROVEN innocent of the charges, still had to deal with the stigma of being accused.
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FETTS61
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| Mon 10/13/08 03:57 PM |
there are allot of innocent people in prison
again, who am i to judge
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Sir_Galahad
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| Mon 10/13/08 03:59 PM |
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there are allot of innocent people in prison
again, who am i to judge
Like the "rapists" whose "victims" recant after 20 years?
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Ruth34611
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| Mon 10/13/08 03:59 PM |
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accusations are very different than convictions.
True enough...but we don't really give people a chance. Like the daycare owners who were later PROVEN innocent of the charges, still had to deal with the stigma of being accused.
I agree with you on that case. Your problem seems to stem more from your anger about being falsely accused of a crime and having to deal with that. I understand that....it is a horrible thing to have that happen. However, just as you wish not to be judged, you shouldn't judge others who make the personal decision to exclude convicted felons from their dating pool. It's a decision each person has to make for themselves.
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Lily0923
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| Mon 10/13/08 03:59 PM |
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accusations are very different than convictions.
True enough...but we don't really give people a chance. Like the daycare owners who were later PROVEN innocent of the charges, still had to deal with the stigma of being accused.
Those are two totally seperate issues.
Would I date someone who has a violent felony record NO.
Would I date someone who was under investigation for child abuse/neglect/assult...NO
would I date someone who had previous non-violent felony charges... I'd debate it, but probably NO.
I've made mistakes in my life, but they have never effected anyone else.... I expect the same in a mate.
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Edited by Lily0923 on Mon 10/13/08 04:00 PM
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