regal1
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| Thu 10/30/08 03:17 PM |
I would like opinions on intimacy guidelines.
Do you wait for a specific time to become intimate with someone? (i.e. 3rd date, 6 months, engaged, married, etc.)
Or if it feels good do it?
If you become intimate too early, how does it change the dynamic of the relationship?
Can you still consider building a relationship?
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franshade
Joined Tue 07/24/07
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| Thu 10/30/08 03:17 PM |
what is this 'sex' you speak of? 
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Riding_Dubz
Joined Wed 05/21/08
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| Thu 10/30/08 03:18 PM |
Im already naked
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jsanchez
Joined Sat 10/18/08
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| Thu 10/30/08 03:19 PM |
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I would say when it feels right, it could be the first date or 6 months.....
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shoesmonkey
Joined Sat 01/19/08
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| Thu 10/30/08 03:20 PM |
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Oh crap!!!!!!! I don't know???????? Be good and...boring or, go for the gusto, life's short road?
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voxsteven
Joined Wed 05/21/08
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| Thu 10/30/08 03:20 PM |
I would say between the appetizer and entree-- there is usually a bit of a lull there-- so, I say get under the table and start makin' guacamole!
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Pete026
Joined Sun 10/14/07
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| Thu 10/30/08 03:21 PM |
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Personally, I'd wait until I'm 99% certain that intimacy is desired and will be reciprocated. There's no definite time frame, each relationship is unique.
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shoesmonkey
Joined Sat 01/19/08
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| Thu 10/30/08 03:21 PM |
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QUOTE:
I would say between the appetizer and entree-- there is usually a bit of a lull there-- so, I say get under the table and start makin' guacamole!
You my friend don't waste any time do ya? lol
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chuck366
Joined Tue 10/16/07
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| Thu 10/30/08 03:21 PM |
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QUOTE:
I would like opinions on intimacy guidelines.
Do you wait for a specific time to become intimate with someone? (i.e. 3rd date, 6 months, engaged, married, etc.)
Or if it feels good do it?
If you become intimate too early, how does it change the dynamic of the relationship?
Can you still consider building a relationship?
I never have a plan
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LexFonteyne
Joined Thu 12/07/06
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| Thu 10/30/08 03:27 PM |
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QUOTE:
I would like opinions on intimacy guidelines.
Do you wait for a specific time to become intimate with someone? (i.e. 3rd date, 6 months, engaged, married, etc.)
Or if it feels good do it?
For me, every situation, every person is different. You can't really establish "guidelines" when the circumstances can be so radically diverse from one relationship to another.
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If you become intimate too early, how does it change the dynamic of the relationship?
I'm not sure there is a "too early." I know some people think that intimacy too quickly carries a connotation of not being "serious," and that may be true in some cases. I don't think it's necessarily a given.
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Can you still consider building a relationship?
Entirely up to the parties involved. It certainly doesn't preclude building a relationship, as far as I'm concerned.
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Magbalihi
Joined Thu 08/07/08
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| Thu 10/30/08 03:28 PM |
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Personally, I'd wait until I'm 99% certain that intimacy is desired and will be reciprocated. There's no definite time frame, each relationship is unique.
I agree....
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galendgirl
Joined Sun 07/06/08
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| Thu 10/30/08 05:34 PM |
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Why, oh why, do there have to be RULES?
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Pete026
Joined Sun 10/14/07
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| Thu 10/30/08 05:36 PM |
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Why, oh why, do there have to be RULES?
Because without them we'd be savage cavemen rapists. JMO
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LexFonteyne
Joined Thu 12/07/06
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| Thu 10/30/08 05:38 PM |
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Why, oh why, do there have to be RULES?
Because without them we'd be savage cavemen rapists. JMO
At least then we could do Geico commercials.
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MsCarmen
Joined Wed 05/07/08
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| Thu 10/30/08 05:39 PM |
For me, if I want to do it, then I do it. No time line for me. Plus, I'll get to find out early on if he has "issues" in that area. And if he does, you can guarantee that I won't be with him after that!
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galendgirl
Joined Sun 07/06/08
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| Thu 10/30/08 05:39 PM |
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Why, oh why, do there have to be RULES?
Because without them we'd be savage cavemen rapists. JMO
As long as both parties are into that...
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RKISIT
Joined Tue 01/08/08
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| Thu 10/30/08 05:41 PM |
when it happens it happens
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PacificStar48
Joined Tue 10/02/07
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| Thu 10/30/08 05:47 PM |
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I think it depends on the person and the situation. I know in a New York Minute how I feel about most people but I tend to wait until the tempo is right for intimacy to be really good. Sometimes that is sooner than later but as time goes by and more things are part of the picture the more studied I like to be. If the passion is really there it won't fade.
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alonenotlonely
Joined Thu 01/03/08
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| Thu 10/30/08 05:48 PM |
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QUOTE:
I would like opinions on intimacy guidelines.
Do you wait for a specific time to become intimate with someone? (i.e. 3rd date, 6 months, engaged, married, etc.)
Or if it feels good do it?
If you become intimate too early, how does it change the dynamic of the relationship?
Can you still consider building a relationship?
I wish there was a plan/strategy that guided such things, but. . .
I can't, I don't, I won't . . . but I have and will again probably.,
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Goofball73
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| Thu 10/30/08 05:50 PM |
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Hey, if she takes off her clothes and wants me to do her, then who am I to stop her from getting what she wants?
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