moonlight_ride62
Joined Thu 07/03/08
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| Tue 11/04/08 09:39 AM |
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why does his kids still come to me for help and not their father...
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franshade
Joined Tue 07/24/07
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| Tue 11/04/08 09:40 AM |
not sure why you are bothered by this? you divorced the father not the kids right? or wrong?
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moonlight_ride62
Joined Thu 07/03/08
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| Tue 11/04/08 09:42 AM |
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not sure why you are bothered by this? you divorced the father not the kids right? or wrong?
they are not my children...they are his..and these are the same kids that turned me into DFACS cuz I abused them ...go figure..never once did I..and after my step daughter grew up and had kids she wanted to move back in with me with her small children
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ljcc1964
Joined Fri 10/19/07
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| Tue 11/04/08 09:42 AM |
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I don't know.
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adirtygirl
Joined Tue 03/11/08
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| Tue 11/04/08 09:42 AM |
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not sure why you are bothered by this? you divorced the father not the kids right? or wrong?
Maybe his kids bonded with you and value your advice over his...Do you not want then to come to you???
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laughsandgiggles
Joined Sun 10/28/07
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| Tue 11/04/08 09:42 AM |
Kids are great judges of character- and evidently they still care about you and you must be a stable influence in their lives.
You divorced their Dad not them- enjoy the relationship.
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62easygoing
Joined Thu 12/27/07
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| Tue 11/04/08 09:43 AM |
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that man must be broke. (Did he loose his job?)
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moonlight_ride62
Joined Thu 07/03/08
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| Tue 11/04/08 09:43 AM |
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it does not bother me...I just find it rather odd..I always help them every chance I get...
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Riding_Dubz
Joined Wed 05/21/08
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| Tue 11/04/08 09:43 AM |
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Kids are great judges of character- and evidently they still care about you and you must be a stable influence in their lives.
You divorced their Dad not them- enjoy the relationship.
well said,
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franshade
Joined Tue 07/24/07
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| Tue 11/04/08 09:44 AM |
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not sure why you are bothered by this? you divorced the father not the kids right? or wrong?
they are not my children...they are his..and these are the same kids that turned me into DFACS cuz I abused them ...go figure..never once did I..and after my step daughter grew up and had kids she wanted to move back in with me with her small children
sweet molasses, if you dont want contact or communication with them - tell them
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adirtygirl
Joined Tue 03/11/08
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| Tue 11/04/08 09:46 AM |
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it does not bother me...I just find it rather odd..I always help them every chance I get...
well then they feel they can come to you and if you so chose to help them then enjoy that... Know that even though they are not yours they feel secure enough with you to trust you and come to you for whatever it may be
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HockeyChick
Joined Thu 10/23/08
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| Tue 11/04/08 09:46 AM |
i think everything that could be said, has been said...
you already said you help every chance you get-kudos
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PATSFAN
Joined Mon 12/10/07
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| Tue 11/04/08 09:47 AM |
 The children are our future
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moonlight_ride62
Joined Thu 07/03/08
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| Tue 11/04/08 09:47 AM |
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that man must be broke. (Did he loose his job?)
he has remarried..but they will come back to me evey time...and I am always there for them...
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Haloheldbyhorns
Joined Sun 09/28/08
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| Tue 11/04/08 09:49 AM |
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Because you are always there for them that is why. if he is remarried again already he has that commitment first and formost(unfortunatly) if you enjoy helping them accept it if not then put limits on it
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adirtygirl
Joined Tue 03/11/08
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| Tue 11/04/08 09:49 AM |
he has remarried..but they will come back to me evey time...and I am always there for them...
I think you just answered your own question..They know you are there for them always so that why they come to you...You are the only one who can say "NO MORE"
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moonlight_ride62
Joined Thu 07/03/08
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| Tue 11/04/08 09:51 AM |
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I just did not wanna feel used so that was why I was asking ya'll...I have a hard time with the 'N' word...
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adirtygirl
Joined Tue 03/11/08
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| Tue 11/04/08 09:52 AM |
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I just did not wanna feel used so that was why I was asking ya'll...I have a hard time with the 'N' word...
Well all I can say is that if you love them and care for them then by all means do whatever you can,,,,But if you have a hard time with the "N" word you need to cut ties if you feel used....
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rebel58
Joined Tue 06/03/08
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| Tue 11/04/08 09:53 AM |
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They trust you.
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lcjw
Joined Thu 10/11/07
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| Tue 11/04/08 09:55 AM |
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Kids are great judges of character- and evidently they still care about you and you must be a stable influence in their lives.
You divorced their Dad not them- enjoy the relationship.
I agree.
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