cutelildevilsmom
Joined Sat 04/07/07
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| Thu 01/24/08 04:30 PM |
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I can only imagin what it would be like to lose a child. I worry about my daughter daily. I believe I would lose my mind if I lost her.
I feel your sorrow and pain. Hang in there. 
HEARTFELT CONDOLENCES AT YOUR LOSS.IF I LOST A CHILD IT WOULD KILL ME.Sorry about the caps..
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youngphoenix89
Joined Thu 01/17/08
Posts: 19
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| Fri 01/25/08 01:21 PM |
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pray about it brother and just go day to day praying to God. and i almost died when i was 12 and i thank God for everyday i have to serve him!!!!!!!!!
Thank you very much I appreciate it. I do everything I can to serve god and I am just waiting to serve my LDS mission
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FreshMountainAir
Joined Thu 08/30/07
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| Fri 01/25/08 01:25 PM |
 I can't and don't want to imagine loosing one of my babies! I am so sorry that you have had to go through this. 
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Flirtyvirgo
Joined Tue 12/11/07
Posts: 1937
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| Fri 01/25/08 01:28 PM |
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Aw so sorry. Gosh I could never imagine losing a child.
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suzyQ41
Joined Sun 01/13/08
Posts: 1081
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| Fri 01/25/08 01:30 PM |
I lost my step-daughter to a car accident. It has been 10 years and it never gets better, despite what they tell you. All you can do is keep telling yourself she is in a better place and we will be together again. That's how I get through the tough days.
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bzmom01
Joined Sat 01/12/08
Posts: 552
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| Sat 01/26/08 10:27 AM |
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I'm like so many others I could never imagine losing one of my kids, but at the same time I nearly lost my daughter at 3 wks old. She quit breathing one morning and only by the grace of God I got up to go to the bathroom and discovered her not breathing in time. I still to this day jump up in the middle of the night to check on her. She's 14 months old now. Keep your head up the days do get better with God's help. You and your family are in my prayers.
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nobodysfool
Joined Wed 01/16/08
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| Sat 01/26/08 10:12 PM |
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A friend of mine lost her son in a terrible accident almost 20 years ago. She told me one day that her heart still aches every single day. But that through the love of her family, friends, and throught the strength of God she has found peace. So, I feel like it's okay for you to still hurt....look to your closest friends and family for the strength and support you need to make it thought each day. I don't know if you believe in God, but I do and I will pray for peace for you. I hope you find it.
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Shaden
Joined Sat 09/29/07
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| Sat 01/26/08 11:00 PM |
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I am so very, very sorry. I have almost lost my daughter several times and that was horrible. I wish you peace and comfort.
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youngphoenix89
Joined Thu 01/17/08
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| Tue 02/05/08 07:58 AM |
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Thank you shaden
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62easygoing
Joined Thu 12/27/07
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| Tue 02/05/08 10:17 AM |
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My daughter died in child birth. (I was going to name her Virginia.)The year was 1981.
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youngphoenix89
Joined Thu 01/17/08
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| Tue 02/05/08 12:49 PM |
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I am sorry to hear that I know it's hard
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hellkitten54
Joined Sun 01/06/08
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| Tue 02/05/08 03:07 PM |
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I'm very sorry to hear that. I could only imagine what it has been like. I will keep you in my thoughts. Time does heal, although it will never be the same.
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2much4u
Joined Wed 09/13/06
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| Tue 02/05/08 03:12 PM |
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i couldn't imagine, sorry about your loss
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chuck366
Joined Tue 10/16/07
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| Tue 02/05/08 03:14 PM |
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HEART WRENCHING, SORRY
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youngphoenix89
Joined Thu 01/17/08
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| Wed 02/06/08 08:09 AM |
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Thank you so very much
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debbie1980
Joined Sun 09/09/07
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| Tue 02/26/08 11:31 AM |
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no words can express the pain you must be going through. im so sorry.
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spqr
Joined Thu 12/13/07
Posts: 388
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| Tue 02/26/08 05:09 PM |
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My daughter died about 2 years ago and im getting renewed night horrors because she died while I was holding her
try to stop suffering...the fact you survived the pain is amazing already to me.
be strong man...
sorry I really don't know what to say.
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PacificStar48
Joined Tue 10/02/07
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| Wed 02/27/08 01:19 AM |
Phoenix,
I am so sorry that you have had to experience such a loss as a young parent. It is much more common than you think.
I lost a child at 15 and there are times when the pain is as excruciateing as the first day and I am a grandmother of five. I will say with the passing of time you do start to find moments of remebering their life and what is beautiful in the world again. Eventually you feel the softness of their skin in the velver sweetness of a rose petal, the sparkle of their laughter in the cascade of a waterfall, the warm of their little bodies snuggled close to you setting in the summer sun, ect ect. and you will know that God did not take all that they were out of your world but only sends it it in different forms. But it is ok to whail and greive and be human because it is just being real. The one thing about feeling pain you still have feelings and you know you are alive. That is always preferable to numbness and not being able to celebrate who your child was and who you are as their source.
There is a long standing organisation called "Compassionate Friends" that has great materials or personal copeing and peer support groups that are a GOD send as you rebuild your life and get through the tough moments. Some of the meetings are pretty loaded with feelings but they are by no means all sad or heroic or or pushing you to do anything you are uncomfortable about. I have yet to send anyone to a meeting that they said they regreted going to in nearing thirty years. A social worker at your local pediatric hospital can refer you, your states Department of Family and Children's Services, or United Way First call for Help, or almost any mental health center. Many chapter's are not religiously affiliated even if they meet in church buildings and or medical Center's. Usually the meetings are free and often the books they offer are on a loan program. I know many chapters have Book lists that will direct you to books by their ISBN number so you can request inter library loans form your local public libray for free. Often community colleges that have child related programs will have some of the better books in their student libaries used student book stores if your community library is limited. And of course on line.
I want to applaud you for taking what is often the hardest step in recovery which is shareing your feelings.
I will pray for your peace and acceptance and grace to cope. Book mark my name if you are on late I am often up. Grandma Joy
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EtherealEmbers
Joined Sun 02/03/08
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| Wed 02/27/08 01:25 AM |
That sucks. Everyone's pain is their own, and that makes it more painful. I thought my pain was bad because I only get to see my daughter in the summers... for only 2 months out of the year. Every time she leaves, it feels like a death to me, and it hurts more every year. When I'm just about over grieving it, it's almost time for her to be with me again.
I can't imagine losing my daughter forever, but because I believe when Jesus comes back we'd be together again, it would give me some peace knowing she didn't have to suffer the miseries of this world and would in a sense skip to the good part. I hope in some way you can find some peace... whoever has lost their child or loved one.
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Jess642
Joined Sat 03/31/07
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| Wed 02/27/08 03:45 AM |
You are 18 now?
So you were all of 16 when you lost your little girl?
You must have been such a young parent....
Do your folks support you, emotionally, or the mother of your child? Or her folks?
This is so sad, it is devastating to lose a child at any age, but to compound that with being so young yourself..you are incredible, and I am in awe of you just for having the strength to be where you are today.
The nightmares, the horrors, are normal, I know sounds weird... we process stuff in different ways, and at different times, your subconscious is processing...however, if you are burdened with guilt, over your little one, please, please, please, find a good grief counsellor, or support group...we all need support at times..
take care of you, and be gentle with yourself..
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