If you think you've got something great to offer and you don't quite meet the criteria of what I'm looking for, email me if you're truly interested. Maybe I could be swayed. I'm not a player, but I'm definitely not one who wants to be played, either.
For the record, I do have a few extra pounds (about 30) that I'm working on losing. At the present time, I'm overweight compared to an anorexic chick... while I've always been curvy, I don't like carrying extra weight around... so for those of you who like "big girls," I'd rather not be lumped in that category... but I'll never be a size 2, either.

I'm a very loving person and not bitter by any means, but some of these things seem necessary to say:

If you'd like to be my friend, have a conversation with me first. I'm not out to get large quantities of friends. I'd much rather have a few genuine friends than many shallow acquaintances.

Guys, if my settings block you from writing me, please just accept it and move on. I don't think it's proper for married men to seek friendships with women they find attractive. I don't want to date any smokers, drug users, or people seeking intimate encounters. I don't want to date anyone in other states unless I seek them out.

Although I was a smoker in previous years, I'd like to share why I'm not interested in dating one. After quitting, I came to realize that it's a very selfish and uncaring habit to have. It destroys your body and ruins your quality of life, and does the same to those around you. You're cutting years off of your life that loved ones should be able to enjoy. You stink, your clothes stink, your skin and hair stink, everything the smoke touches stinks, your teeth get stained, your surroundings get stained, and if you're one of the completely unlucky ones, you'll develop cancer or maybe even earn a hole in your neck.

Smoke is one of the number one allergens, and there's nothing quite like hearing a smoker's hacking cough or hearing/seeing someone spitting all the time. It causes more allergies for everyone around you, not to mention that they could get cancer because of your smoke, even if they've never picked up a cigarette in their life. There's nothing quite like enjoying a walk and being choked while walking right into a cloud of smoke that someone else left several minutes before you got there. It's not that I think I'm better than you smokers, it's just that it kills me and others, too. I'd like to apologize to every person I ever choked with my smoke back when I had the terrible habit. I'm VERY sorry for that.


I'm looking for...
A straight, single, faithful, drug-free, tobacco-free, healthy and honest man around my age (around 27-46 yrs old), that has strong morals, is respectful, intelligent, funny, attractive, tall (5'7+) witty, spiritual, interesting, ambitious, & trustworthy enough to be my best friend, always being honest to a fault. It takes a truly strong and real man to stick by truth and reveal who he really is. Everyone has faults, but cowards hide behind facades. I don't expect perfection, as I am far from it myself. I am open to dating someone who isn't religious or spiritual, as long as there is no disrespect toward what I believe.

MY PROFILE SETTINGS ARE FROM AGE 21 to 61 FOR CHATTING WITH FRIENDS, NOT FOR DATING PURPOSES.


A few things I appreciate:

good manners
being up front
honesty
integrity
openness
cleanliness
family values
big hugs
soft kisses
sarcastic, silly, random humor


A few things I don't appreciate:

incessant profanity
ebonics
bitterness
holding grudges
constant whining
dishonesty / lying
cheating / infidelity
drug users / tobacco users
alcoholics (unless in recovery)


I'm a walking contradiction. I find humor in almost everything, and I laugh all the time. I try to stay positive. I'm old-fashioned in many ways, especially when it comes to romance. I love very strongly and am loyal to those I love. I grew up as a tomboy but I am sensitive. I crush on guys easily and lose interest quickly if they play games. I believe that relationships are two way streets... they take communication and compromise... both people involved should be able to express their thoughts, feelings, and goals with support and without criticism. After much reflection in my life, I feel I have a lot to offer someone in a relationship. I know a lot about what isn't healthy and what is. I'm looking forward to sharing my life with someone who walks the same path as I do, or at least is going in the same direction.

I'm a full-time student and am working on getting a degree in Social Work. I've always enjoyed helping others when I'm able, and I've always felt a calling toward counseling and/or teaching. I'm finally listening to that and pursuing it as a career. I've got a long way to go yet, but I'm enjoying all the things I'm learning about on my way there. I've always wanted a job that made me proud to look in the mirror each day, and I feel that's what this will do. So many people feel like they're the only one going through a certain rough patch, and all they really need is one person to reach out and understand.

I'm a very caring person and try to share in everything I do and everything I have. I will go out of my way just to help someone as long as they're not taking advantage of me. I love to spend time with someone special whenever possible, but it's nice to have alone time, too. I'm bold when I'm interested in someone, but I prefer them to pursue me if they're interested. A guy that waits for me to be ready for intimacy is A+ in my book. I don't like to be pressured. Being overly flirtatious with a woman like me will not get you any points. A man should never force a woman into feeling things she's just not ready to feel. Always go at the woman's pace. A friendly tip for the guys out there!

We all have ideas of what we want and don't want when it comes to romantic relationships... the biggest thing for me is companionship... on every level. Someone to enjoy the silly things I do and understand my sense of humor. Someone that will bring me into their silly imagination. Someone that will sit through a bible study with me without complaining about how bored they are, even if they're just sitting through it for my sake. Someone that I can discuss my hopes and dreams with... someone that will share theirs with me. Someone to grow old with, and laugh about chin hair and other things in places that never were there in our youth. Someone to laugh and cry with about our scars.

I want to be with someone who thinks I'm the most beautiful woman he's ever met, inside and out. Someone who won't tell me to not talk about the past because they know it's part of who I am. Someone who wants to know all about me and what makes me tick. Someone who's not afraid to pass gas in front of me and who's not disgusted that I'm human, too. Someone that will treat me like a lady, even when I scratch myself in front of him. Someone that won't criticize me and call me names when he gets mad. Someone who will love me and appreciate me even if I'm being completely unreasonable.

Someone who will watch a meteor shower with me and jump through puddles in the rain. Someone who will hold me when I'm scared and hold me when I'm not. Someone who's not afraid to touch me just because he feels like it. Someone who wants to share time in the kitchen because he knows I enjoy cooking together. Someone who loves to take me out because he knows I love nature and will drag me out for a walk when he knows I need the sunshine. All these things and more are what I want... is it really so much to ask for? I think not!! I will have hope until I have no life left in me... this I swear.


If you actually read my entire profile and are still interested in talking with me, then... say hi :)   Send me a message!

Profession: Student
Interests:  writing poetry, road trips, board games, arts & crafts, decorating, home improvement, self-improvement, volunteering, helping others, coffee, people watching, internet, music, art, travel, photography, hiking, camping, playing pool, bowling, card games, singing loudly in my car, driving slow, driving fast, stargazing, thunderstorms, nature walks, exploring, fishing (but I hate seafood!)