Moving to Tallahassee

Currently in a relationship and only looking for friends.

I am a 22 year old single white female, 98 pounds of bone and beauty, black hair, blue eyes, and not to be underestimated. My breeding is hick, however this should not come into play as I was not raised as one. I grew up in Saginaw, Michigan, which considers itself a part of Detroit if you are of my generation. However my bearing is often shifting, hence 32 flavors.

What this means is that you will often be surprised by me, because my personality at any given moment can and sometimes does shift.I can be tender and loving, soft and sensitive at one point in time, viscious, cold, and unrelenting when I need to be (usually in business endeavors), confident, flirty and playful when the mood strikes me, or well-bred and well-read if I feel that way at the moment. Rest assured that all of these are part of who I am. I'm just an ecclectic personality, and really there's just too much of who I am to crowd in any one breath.

I am a drifter by nature, and a lover of all things aestetic and or intellectual. I despise empty mundane conversation, and I prefer to spend life either in the fast lane, or in close company. I am addicted to music, and my tastes are extremely eclectic. I love to cook. I am very independent, outgoing, and outspoken. I communicate better in a look or touch than in words, and I probably think much differently than you. Strange for a writer as this may seem, let me explian. A person is much more than their words, appearance, occupation, possessions, or any given action.

I like caramel lattes and adore the smell and taste of cinnamon. I love music and dancing, am very spontaneous, and my favorite flower is the tiger lily. I am both hard-edged realist and passionate idealist. My favorite color is green, my favorite tree, the weeping willow. I prefer cats to dogs, exotic to mundane, and by this I mean my life, not just my pets, often you will find me very outside of the box.

None of this is an indication of who I am in and of itself. I am inconstant, and yet stable. Some say its a bad attribute to have. To me it means that Im always up for a new adventure, and always a surprise. If you don't understand any of this, you don't need to waste both of our time.

All I can say is, if you want to know, come and attempt to find out. All in all if I must try to describe myself in a few words I will do so as I have been called, *one of a kind*, sometimes in jest, often in nostalgic longing. I do better at this sort of thing if I know what it is someone is looking for, what answers they seek, although I will warn you that I don't tend to be one who will sugar coat and I have no regrets about who I am, and no reason to hide it either.

Looking for someone that likes to try new things and is somewhat adventurous, someone who can appreciate the arts, non-sexual friendship, evening wine, good conversation, dancing and music, and the beauty of life. Not all are required. I'm pretty open minded, but I know who I am and mostly, what I want out of my life. I prefer clean cut. I dont like games, and if your only interest is to parade me around like a new toy or to use me as you see fit without regard my life, we will not get along. I don't get along with 24 year old children and I am not on a husband hunt.

I generally dont date men 40 and up, tending to get along with the 30 to 36 age range better. I don't mind conversation though.

I want a life of who I am, where the fire and hellcat in me never has to lose itself in dishes and laundry and what do you want for dinner queries, I could never be free or happy in that. Not that I don't want children. I want a home and children and stability, and I understand responsibility and have no problem with it, but if you're not living, really living, you're dead already. I never want to lose the fire and passion of my life, I want to be salsa dancing like I'm 17 at 60, I want to be 80 and just as young and filled with vitality as I am now, balanced with a healthy sense of responsibility. I don't ever want to lose who I am in the ins and outs of life.

Im not looking for the fairy tale. Life is imperfect, that's fine. I am looking for someone close to my fairy tale, imperfect to it, who appreciates who I am outside of body and material crap. I know that one day, I will grow old, be unable to work, everything will sag, and thats life. Shack or palace or anywhere in between, I don't care as long as you still know how to let a woman cry when she needs to, walk BESIDE her instead of in front of her, and keep who you are intact. I don't care about your 3 car garage or your new toy. I want to know who you are. What are your dreams, passions in life, what do you believe, what makes you feel, who are you, from the inside out. I don't care what you can give me in material ways, I will get it myself if I want it. I don't care about hearing how good you are in bed, I can also do that for myself. I want what I can't give myself. A meaningful friendship, someone who will know me and care deeper than what dress I am wearing or how much I might improve your social status. I won't, let me tell you that right now.

To all of you out there who think it might be FUN to get laid, or like to play games, or want a fling, or think that you can make me into who you want me to be or think I should be, or the many other things that men THINK they can do, let me make one thing clear. I CAN LIVE WITHOUT YOU, you are NOT God's gift to women, and you ARE replacable.

I generally get about 20 emails a day, with everything in the spectrum from latino to white to black, rags, lower class, upper class, middle class, and flagrantly rich, and everything in between. I have had plenty of opportunity to date not only the boy next door but also the hot little latin lover from overseas, the military brat, the dork, a few underwear models, the fun loving adventurer, the party slut, the gentleman, the older, more settled type, and everything else in between.

What I AM looking for is the one who IS irreplacable. You could be out there in any one of the above mentioned rolls.

The point is that I will not tolerate being treated the way the average male treats women, and I have no problem moving on if you think you will lie, cheat, neglect, disrespect, control, change, (ect ect ect need I continue) me in any potential relationship.

If you can't communicate, and yes I mean REALLY communicate, not talk, but set your EGO and your *Im a man I don't feel* attitude aside, we will not get along. I am NOT a mind reader, or a magic fix-it, and I won't even TRY to be. WE can either make it work or you're wasting OUR time.

This means putting aside all of your male reluctance to be REAL and it means putting aside the though exterior robotic armor, and it means putting down the smiling little masks, and the fake persona you men so often like to try to pull off, and being REAL.

Frankly Im tired of the bullcrap and the lack of respect for relationships that men seem to have today. I am especially tired of men expecting me to walk into their lives and be everything that they ever wanted with no strings attatched, and then turn bitter and angry and silent when they realize that I am not their fantasy, or their barbie doll that they can make play the part they want in their lives. DO NOT try to make me into what you want me to be. You know who you are.

For the rest of you, I dont bite, so please feel free to email me. Its not that I hate men, I love men, I just abhor bulls**t. Also, I dont care which of the above categories you are in, I want to know the person, not the label, and you never know if you dont try.   Send me a message!

Profession: Freelance Model, seeking day job
Interests:  writing, antiques, literature, pottery, artistic endeavors, dancing, rock climbing, wine tasting, debate, intellectual challenges, storms, music, cooking, road trips, outdoors, good conversation, old art, coffee shops, the woods, museums, art galleries