Barely house broken so I am not likely easily trained to be what you want me to be, but I do believe that compromise should not be confused with surrender.
I don't do drama and although I use luggage to travel with I carry no baggage or attitude, and have never carried a past relationship into the present. If you tell me a secret it stays that way. I never condemn an opinion because it differs from my own. I am open-minded and comfortable with who and what I have become over the years and not easily intimidated, so just talk to me because there is a good chance I care what you think.
Hobbies have been high adrenaline from skiing off piste (the source of two knee surgeries) to sail planes and rock climbing, and on occasion sky diving. For twelve years I was involved with the DOD and the military working with tactical teams (the source of another seventeen broken bones, two more surgeries and a couple of brain concussions), and taught karate and close quarter survival skills to the military and police officers in the U.S., and in Greece. The last six years of service were spent at a large scale computer weapons research and development laboratory, where in exchange for the shallow liquidity of a checkbook balance the government paid for my educations in business, communication, professional technical writing, and the psychology of human behavior, so I am grateful. Since, I travel and conduct training for Federal Agencies, corporations, and other government entities across North America and the Europe.
There are still a few long range activities planned to include a motorcycle trip through the Swiss, Italian, and French Alps; a sabbatical in a Buddhist Monastery for just a month, a cage-dive with Great White sharks off the coast of Australia, or South Africa, but I understand they have now located a colony off California and Mexico; plus a joy ride flying in a Russian Mig over Moscow. I will also someday see Paris at Christmas and the Russian Ballet perform in Russia, however in the meantime they did an exceptional performance of the Nutcracker here in St. Pete last year. All of these will require a quantity of disposable cash so they will not likely happen in the same year unless I get very lucky or find I only have a year to live, then, what the heck. I am not addicted to weekend sports on TV but can enjoy them in the company of friends and can be happy at almost anything live where the excitement is real.
Occasional travel exists for a companion when I am going someplace fun, but must: love music from rock concerts to the opera in LA to dark jazz bars in New Orleans; be happy sitting in cheap rental lawn chairs at the Shakespeare Festival by Lake Tahoe at moonlight drinking wine from small plastic cups; own and preferably look good in jeans for strolling the city sights by day and later in a little black dress for the evening; be able to lunch at a bistro in Paris when the when opportunity presents, even if we cannot read the menu and will be perhaps surprised by sampling new and exotic cuisine, and be just as happy sitting at the local Boston Market or at home with take-out; have appropriate manners and poise in public and we can talk about in what can happen in private much later in the relationship; must be willing to receive flowers for no good reason other than I thought of you and OK if I open doors and pull out your chair when the evening calls for it, and appreciate I am willing to do it and that I am not likely to stop doing it just because we have been dating for a while.
I am moved by passion with imagination and ingeniity and don't have very many boundries. I prefer Italian clothing, very old British sports cars or old German luxury sedans (although occasionally temperamental or problematic), and American Harley Davidson Motorcycles; Asian simplicity of design and old architecture from anywhere(when buildings still had a sense of character), the thinking of Carl Yung rather than Sigmund Freud, and the sarcastic humor of Calvin and Hobbs.
I personally focused on making the world a better place and not on getting rich, perhaps a recognizable error as I get older but I stand by my choices. I truly do not care what you have, where you live, or what you do for a living, and with luck it will be both ethical and legal, but then I used to work for government so that may even have a few negotiable facets.
I would also like to spend my time with someone that takes care of them self physically and possesses a few goals outside of the next mall sale. Your dreams will be emotionally supported even if they someday lead you away from me. It would be awesome if a companion is intelligent, which I value greatly over Barbie doll features, but physical attraction is both chemical and magnetic so exercise simply leads to a more enjoyable physical relationship. Regarding emotional support, I have broad shoulders you can lean on whenever you need them, but please don't plan to just go to sleep there.
The reference to smoking occasionally is a celebratory cigar and not cigarettes. I have shared conversation and cigars with captains of industry, military leaders, and foreign diplomats, but I draw the line at most politicians. If I find I have something better to do with my lips I may recent.
If anything I have written is a deal breaker for you and therefore a missed opportunity for me, I understand. If you should change your mind later you might consider asking for a direct email address or a phone as I will not likely be keeping this profile up long. It is not due to unsuitable people but rather that the impersonal manner email and the internet force upon me. I am an old world romantic and believe eyes speak volumes and tell stories of passion and dreams of the future, a voice can caress and sooth frayed nerves, that lips should be seen moving when people talk to me. These are important parts to the beginning of anything.
This new profile will probably weed out most of support group candidates and gold diggers for whom I offer no disrespect since the men you have dated allowed it to perpetuate. And, for the few who contacted me and made our short time corresponding feel like I was a victim of the Spanish Inquisition, I am sorry that people hurt you in your past. Walls rarely keep out the determined but they do present a dilemma: will the type of man you seek want to pay for the mistakes of others as it is much like skating on the thin ice of a fast running river. I have had many extraordinary teachers in my life and a Buddhist Monk once made a statement I have worked very hard never to forget, "Will you hurt less if others hurt more?"
And this was a gift from a direct disciple of Gandhi but his own direct quote:
“Be the change you want to see in the world."
Or perhaps this will be of more use:
“We must be willing to let go of the life we have planned so as to have the life that is waiting for us.” -- E. M. Forester Send me a message!
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